If you are a new mom, you probably have a million different thoughts going through your head. What kind of mom will I be? What color eyes and hair will the baby have? Along with those thoughts are a lot of fears too and very understandable. Babble.com put together a list of the 10 most common fears a new mom has. I have them below along with some of their comments. You can click HERE to read the rest of the comments for each fear. And as many other moms would say... you don't need to worry too much, because it is all worth it. It really is.
1. You'll Turn Into Your Mother - It’s inevitable; your mom is your first and strongest model of parenting. Think about what you learned from your mother and decide what you want to emulate and what you want to avoid.
2. You'll Lose Yourself - Transitioning from an independent person to a parent involves a balance of holding on to the things that are important to you and knowing when to let go of the ideas that are no longer crucial to your sense of self. Will becoming a parent change you? Most definitely. Will becoming a parent turn you into a unrecognizable shell of your former self? Nope.
3. Your Relationship Will Never Be The Same - Ok, this one is actually true. Co-parenting gives you a whole new playing field to operate on. It can take hard work on both parents’ parts, but when a good co-parenting relationship grows out of a good romantic relationship, your bond will be stronger than ever.
4. You'll Get A Dud - You’re brewing some kind of baby in there, but much of what he’s got in store for you will not become clear until much later, when he grows old enough to express himself. If you’re feeling worried, keep in mind that whatever you’re anxious about is probably unlikely (and even if it should happen, the anxiety is quite possibly worse than the reality).
6. You'll Be A Bad Parent - We live in an age of extreme parenting. “Experts” promote parenting techniques at every turn, and it’s easy to worry that you won’t be able to live up to the ideal. Everyone’s got an opinion, and the only one that really matters is yours. And being a good person is a great first step toward being a good parent.
7. You Won't Like Parenting - Not liking being a mother to a baby doesn’t mean you don’t like being a mother. Kids are always changing, and the experience of motherhood changes along with them. You are bound to have favorite and less favorite phases. So if you find the cute little baby phase boring, don’t worry; it’ll be over before you know it.
8. Your Sexy Days Are Over - It can take some time to see yourself as sexy again, but it happens eventually. The parents who have the best sex lives are often the ones who manage to retain — or regain — a sense of openness and playfulness in the bedroom (or out of it).
9. Your Career Will Go Down The Toilet - Getting ahead in our workforce seems to require a kind of single-minded workaholic energy. But when children are in the picture, it’s no longer as easy to spontaneously stay late at the office or stay up all night to meet a deadline. Mothers often find that their careers take a short-term back seat or at least enter a holding pattern, but this often changes as kids grow and daytime care options grow along with them.
10. You'll Be Trapped - Your new reality will become such a part of who you are that your former, relatively carefree life may start to feel like a movie you watched on cable once. You know that thing parents always say about how they could never imagine their lives without their children? It’s mostly true.
What was or is your new mom fear?